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06-27-2009, 12:06 PM
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Rep Power: 8 | | Personal "Friend" Advice... i need some opinions Hey fellas, here is the situation. My best friend's girlfriend just found out she is pregnant. He thinks its his. I just found out that she was sleeping with her ex about the time she got pregnant, im friends with his friends. Now do i tell my best friend or do i keep my mouth shut and let him think its his? Help me out. Did you find this post awesome? Yes |
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06-27-2009, 12:10 PM
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Rep Power: 13 | | Depends, is this possible other baby daddy a different skin color? If so that could be a hell of a surprise at the birth. Did you find this post awesome? Yes |
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06-27-2009, 12:12 PM
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06-27-2009, 12:18 PM
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Rep Power: 27 | | My suggestion is use this information against this chick and there's a blowjob right there.
But really, it all depends on how much the best friend really cares about the girlfriend. Did you find this post awesome? Yes |
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06-27-2009, 12:20 PM
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Rep Power: 8 | | yeah, thats the thing, he is excited about it and is in love with the girl. I just dont want him to play daddy to a kid that might not be his Did you find this post awesome? Yes |
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06-27-2009, 12:30 PM
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Rep Power: 7 | | What kind of friend are you going to be if/when he finds out and your not shocked cause you have to admit you already knew that shit? Man throw the trash in the can, if that skeezer would do that shit once she'd do it again. save him the trouble now. If your his friend. Did you find this post awesome? Yes |
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06-27-2009, 12:38 PM
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Originally Posted by garyj Hey fellas, here is the situation. My best friend's girlfriend just found out she is pregnant. He thinks its his. I just found out that she was sleeping with her ex about the time she got pregnant, im friends with his friends. Now do i tell my best friend or do i keep my mouth shut and let him think its his? Help me out. | Not even close--
You talk with the girlfriend and give her a choice--
She tells or you tell
The ramifications later in life for the child and the parents are mind boggling
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06-27-2009, 12:41 PM
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Originally Posted by egghead Not even close--
You talk with the girlfriend and give her a choice--
She tells or you tell
The ramifications later in life for the child and the parents are mind boggling | Agreed. The best reason to do it this way is that there's a decent chance your friend will refuse to believe you, at least at first. She tells him, he doesn't have much of a choice. It's gonna make things ugly, but things are already ugly.
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06-27-2009, 12:43 PM
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Rep Power: 18 | | I have been in the situation before (not with pregnancy, but with a girl dating two of my friends) and I did as Egg said. Make her tell or you tell.
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Originally Posted by egghead Not even close--
You talk with the girlfriend and give her a choice--
She tells or you tell
The ramifications later in life for the child and the parents are mind boggling |
i completly agree with this. my friends caught my best friends girl friend cheating on him, and told me about it. i confronted her about it when she wasnt with him, and told her that she had to tell him, or that i was going to. Its probably the best way the situation could have played out in the end, so id definetly go with something like that Did you find this post awesome? Yes |
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06-27-2009, 12:54 PM
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Rep Power: 8 | | shes a good liar though, if i tell her that she would just deny it and i would end up having to tell him anyways... so its either i tell him or keep it a secret Did you find this post awesome? Yes |
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06-27-2009, 01:10 PM
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Originally Posted by garyj shes a good liar though, if i tell her that she would just deny it and i would end up having to tell him anyways... so its either i tell him or keep it a secret | But you would have gone to her first-not behind her back--and you can hear her side of the story--even if she denies it--
Until you talk with her all you have is hearsay anyway-
---keeping it a secret should not be an option if there is no doubt in your mind there is a question on who is the father after talking with the girlfriend
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06-27-2009, 01:39 PM
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Rep Power: 12 | | there could also be some legal ramifications if he puts his name on the birth certificate whether its his or not. He may make himself liable for child support for somebody else's baby.
Besides, his he your friend or is she? you gotta tell him. Wouldn't you want him to do the same for you if the situation was reversed?
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06-27-2009, 01:59 PM
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Rep Power: 8 | | I think im just going to let him know what happened and let him handle it, thats what i would want. I dont wanna go between the two of them back and forth ill just let him know what i know, and from there he can do what he wants. Did you find this post awesome? Yes |
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06-27-2009, 02:06 PM
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Originally Posted by egghead Not even close--
You talk with the girlfriend and give her a choice-- She tells or you tell
The ramifications later in life for the child and the parents are mind boggling | Ding, ding, ding! We have a winning solution! I bolded the important part.
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06-27-2009, 02:24 PM
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Rep Power: 12 | | Or, you tell her that she gives you head or you're going to tell. Then you tell your friend that not only did she get knocked up by some other dude, she blew you to bribe you to keep your mouth shut.
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06-27-2009, 03:10 PM
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Rep Power: 13 | | Man Code! Bros before Hoes.... Silence is not an option. Just as others have said...He needs to be told, either by you or her. I'd assume that the only way this relationship has a chance in hell is if she is the one to do it. If he has the impression that she was hiding it, lying, and not willing to come clean... I'd say it's over, and rightfully so. Not only has she betrayed him, she's playing him as a fool since others seem to know about it. It's possible this 9incounter with her ex was an isolated incident, but unlikely. It is won't be the last. Now that she faces the fear of having a kid and being a single parent she'll cling to your buddy like a shut-down corner covering a one-legged WR. He's her security blanket. This is a life altering thing he's going through, in many regards. He needs to know that the person he's with is a partner he can rely on. It does not appear so and it's your job as his "best friend" to save him being fished in and suffering all the more in the long run.
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06-27-2009, 07:54 PM
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06-27-2009, 08:01 PM
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06-28-2009, 01:36 AM
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Rep Power: 7 | | I'm going to take a different approach here because I don't personally know you and you might be friends with everybody involved which might make this case a lot togher than it sounds and you don't want to turn out to be the bad guy and I get that...
It's always bros before hoes and don't ever forget it....
Before your friends name goes on that Birth Certificate then you have to convince your friend to get the proper blood work done to make sure that kid is his...
Your friend will be asking you a lot of questions that might put you in a tough spot and lie to him if you have too and tell him that you heard rumors...
If your friends name goes on the birth certificate then he could be stuck with 18 years of child support with a kid that isn't even his and that would totally suck...
Best of luck to you in the decision you make and I hope my advice helped..
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